How to Give Your Kids What You Never Had

As child abuse survivors, we work really hard to do the best we can with our children. We want them to have what we didn’t. So we try to create a healthy, nourishing environment to help our kids grow and thrive in the best way possible.

But after working all day, sometimes there isn’t much left of us for our children. That used to bother me a lot. I felt like I wasn’t giving my kids 100% of what they needed from me.

Finally, I realized I was trying to give them what “I” felt they needed, not what “they” feel they needed. They didn’t need a mother who ran herself ragged every day, trying to be a supermom. All they wanted was what I needed when I was a child: to be seen, heard, understood, and validated.

How do you make this happen for your children?

You simply do less and listen more. In fact, the less you say the better. Instead, listen intently to whatever your kids want to tell you. Ask questions when appropriate and make...

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What Do You Believe, and Does It Serve You?

Have you noticed my recent blog posts have been building on a certain theme?  Each one is written to take you deeper and deeper into your healing.  My intent is to help you tackle your core issues and accelerate your healing.  Sounds good, doesn’t it?  I think so!  

Today, let’s talk about what we believe.  It’s more important than you might think.  

Unfortunately, abused children are told many lies.  Children are sponges, and they’re born into this world, trusting their parents and caretakers.  It’s only natural for them to absorb and believe everything they’re taught.  Even if what they’re taught isn’t true.   

Every single thing we do is a direct response to what we believe.  Everything we say and think is also based on these core beliefs.  So my question to you is what do you believe?

Unless you’re consciously choosing healthy beliefs, creating new habits...

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