I know I have been MIA for a couple of months. This fall was very busy with travel and learning. I am enjoying being back home for the holidays and no more travel until the spring of 2019. But I do have some exciting news that I plan to share with you over the next few weeks. You may have seen some of the announcements if you follow me on social media. I am getting back to my blogging and newsletter routine here in December and regular blog posts scheduled for 2019.
I have a special invitation for you, especially meant for those of you who are feeling alone and behind in your healing.
For so long, I had this nagging feeling that I was always behind. Like I was chasing my tail, always almost there, so close but always falling short. So much of my time was devoted to taking care of others and busy work but I never felt like I was making progress towards my goals, doing what I wanted or needed. And at the end of the day, little progress made. It was exhausting and frustrating. I felt hopeless at times.
I didn’t know why I was feeling this way or what I was chasing. Is this you?
My clients will often ask me, “What was the tool that finally worked for you to feel healing take place?”
And for years now, I always tell them that the turning point in my healing journey was when I found a support group. That was when I learned the vital lesson, the lesson that I tell everyone I work with, that healing is NOT done in isolation. That healing happens in numbers, in community, in peer support. Because one of the most vital things all survivors desire and need is validation and acceptance, from people who don’t see them as damaged or broken, who see them for who they really are.
It was not until I was in a support group that I got to experience what it is like to have people show up for you, be there for you, just because they care and have been in your shoes. It was in a group that my walls slowly came down. I started to believe in other people and in myself. I saw myself in my peers, and as I saw them find hope and heal, I started to believe that I could too.
I was blessed to find a support group in the beginning of my healing. That group helped me more than I could have imagined and I still reflect on the lessons I learned there. It was my motivation for facilitating groups of my own, either online or in person over the last 10 years. I have lead both mens and women's groups and often started them because I couldn’t find ANY support groups around my community, when my local community resource centers for survivors either didn’t have enough staff to lead them or were unsure how. I soon realized that I had a gift for leading groups, once I had learned that all I had to do was to show up for people, with loving intention and by holding a safe place for my fellow survivors. I did not always have the answer for them but I was always willing to listen and validate and encourage. And that’s all people need in this life. To feel seen and heard.
As this year is coming to an end, as I plan out my year for 2019, I am reflecting on what worked this past year and what didn’t. And one of the things that clearly worked this past year was the private online group I started in January for the readers of my book, Releasing Your Authentic Self. Everyone in the group has made huge strides, experienced breakthroughs and powerful shifts on their healing and the way they live their lives from day to day. This group created a safe place and a reliable community of people that were all experiencing the same things, helping these survivors to eliminate the common but debilitating feeling of being alone, of not being understood or accepted. This group, paired with a year long book of daily exercises for healing, fulfills the criteria that survivors need to heal from trauma.
When we are unsure about the healing process, we slide backwards into our old way of coping. To heal and recover from childhood trauma and abuse you need three things:
Clarity about the healing process
A safe place to practice new skills and healthy habits
Acceptance and support from peers
This online group provides the space for all three things.
When you are unsure of what to do next or how to lift yourself out of a bad day or dark space, you will be given a daily suggestion to focus on, a question or healing thought that gives you clarity. Reading journal entries from other survivors will help you to identify what your coping mechanisms are (by seeing them in others) and learning to put those aside to reveal your authentic self. Once you identify who you are and separate from your negative beliefs and painful feelings, you will see how to practice self-compassion and kindness, modeled to you by myself and the others, in skills and habits that lead to feelings of empowerment and hope. And you will always have a place where you feel welcome and accepted by others like you.
But most importantly, the thing that makes this group different from so many others that I have seen, is that we focus on telling the stories of our healing, not just the stories of our past, the hurt, or the abuse. This is a more hopeful approach, more inspiring and positive. Because you are not your trauma. You are what you choose to focus on. When we focus on the present, on positivity, on healing and love, it doesn’t matter what happened to us in the past. Our story is not over, we are still writing!
I know that so many survivors are struggling because of the holidays. And with that in mind, for the month of December, I am giving you an opportunity to try out the group for a trial period, risk free.
Right now for just $1, you can have access to a safe place for healing and support and finally find your community. I know for many survivors it is hard to believe that there is a place where you will feel heard and understood. I know because I resisted too and did not believe it myself for a long time.
The most important thing to keep in mind is that you are, have always been, and always will be, worth the effort you put into YOU. Your life, your hopes, your dreams, your mind, your soul, your body....every little part of you is worth the effort of nourishment and love and fulfillment. You can do anything you dream of and be whoever you want to be so long as you believe you are worthy of it. Life will always present you with ways to push forward and become the person you were always meant to be, a path towards the life you deserve. But there is also a path behind you, ready to accept you back and show you the past, to weigh you down with old guilt, shame, anger, grief, and sorrow. Whether you take a step backwards or forwards is simply determined by which path you believe you deserve.
And I am here to tell you, that you always have deserved the light and the life ahead of you. So make the effort to take the step forward, on the journey you were made for. Because you are worth it.
Don't struggle through your healing alone. Join now and feel the love and acceptance that you deserve.
Visit svavabrooks.com/p/2019-group to learn more and register today!
If you have any questions about the group, please reach out, I’m happy to answer any questions you may have.
I look forward to supporting you further and seeing you in the group for 2019.
Ready to change? Are you stuck? Don’t worry. I can help! Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($125). Let me help you with the next step to heal your life. You deserve it! Reserve your spot NOW!
Are you looking for more support? I have created a closed Facebook group for the readers of “Releasing Your Authentic Self." If you are ready to dig deep, and want to experience the daily support, encouragement from others like you. Follow this link to learn more: Releasing Your Authentic Self Support Group.
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